It’s a beautiful thought, and I think anyone who starts dating should have the idea in mind that you have genuinely found the best person you know. And that’s how marriages stay healthy—by people reminding themselves of their partner’s qualities. But even then, always remember that a promise is just a word and not a thing. We can use words to make all the promises that we want, but what will decide the future will be the decisions we make in a progressive collection of Nows. You only live Now, and so you cannot say for certain what decision a different you might make at a different time. So go ahead and make your promises of intent. They still have value. But if you end up on the wrong end of a broken promise don’t think some terrible inhuman thing has happened. It’s pretty routine. In fact, kept promises might be the smallest category of all. Look, people can easily make sincere and heartfelt promises and still have valid reasons to break them. You’ll do it in your life so try not to be so judgmental about others when they do it to you. I’m not saying it doesn’t hurt. It can hurt like hell to have people lie to you or break a promise. But that’s all a part of life. Feeling is what you do. You’re a creature that feels the universe. So like a great movie or book, feel everything. Sadness, tragedy, lust, joy. One’s not better than the other. But you get the ones you choose. So accept promises but don’t expect them. Then life will have fewer disappointments. And that makes room for more joy, so go for it. 😉
Note: Everyone who posts or shares a quote does so with the very best of intentions. That said, I have created the series of Other Perspectives blog posts in an effort to prevent some of these ideas from entering into people’s consciousness unchallenged. These quotes range from silly to dangerous and—while I intend no offence to their creators—I do use these rebuttals to help define and delineate the larger message I’m attempting to convey in my own work. I do hope you find them helpful in your pursuit of both psychological and spiritual health.
Following a childhood accident should have left him dead, Scott McPherson spent his life meditating on thought, consciousness, reality and the self. Seeing the emotional damage done by ego-based overthinking he began dedicating a part of his life to guiding students toward more peaceful and rewarding lives. He is currently a writer, speaker and mindfulness instructor based in Edmonton, Canada.