Realizing Confidence

1377 Relax and Succeed - Enlightenment is no some state we achieve

This is what it feels like when I meet most students: They arrive feeling somewhat insecure and they often lack confidence in their ability to live their lives as well as they might. I can agree with that assessment only in part because gaining consciousness does benefit us all.

What I cannot do is join others in feeling they are either broken or failing. Shrouded and lost maybe, but broken and failing? No.

To use one of the parables of Jesus as a reference, I only see people who are ‘hiding their light under a bushel.’ They are beautiful souls, executing the verb of creating problematic thinking that prevents them from realizing who they really are.

People’s thinking will generally be some form of comparative, problematic judgment that forms who they believe they are –hence their desire for change. By going through the experiences in the sessions, people begin to see thought for what it really is, and in doing so it loses its power.

We have to be someone, so our history helps form our thinking, and even the wisest spend their lives yinning and yanging back and forth between the thinking of their ego and the knowing of their soul. As I routinely say, we can’t have a path without having not-path.

This means enlightenment isn’t some state we achieve, it is the verb of ‘being without thinking.’ When we can see through our thinking we see it as nothing more than ill-informed, ephemeral theories about the world and ourselves.

Once people naturally realize that no one really knows anything for sure, judgment slips away and the natural confidence that all souls had as children emerges again.

We imagine that we feel better and gain confidence. In reality, we have always been fine. We are naturally buoyant in life, it is only our debilitating thoughts that appear to weigh us down. Confidence does not need to be acquired, it only needs to be uncovered. We can each do that by gaining a deeper understanding of how our thinking truly creates our reality.

peace. s

The Flow of Soul

1371 Relax and Succeed - Do not be afraid

If we want to see the course of how our thoughts impact reality, the quote above is a good example. The vast majority of people would chain their thoughts together in a habitual way and then conclude that this statement to be about our biological death. In fact, it applies just as neatly to the death of our ego.

Rephrased it could read,

Do not be afraid

We are all part of an infinite collection of beings whose existence is to flow from one state to another, so we need not fear our next unknown. 

Everyone before you has died

You cannot stay

Any more than a baby can stay forever in the womb

Our births define the beginning of a phase of experiences, and it is only the course of our individual thoughts that lead us to feel separate from each other, this flow, and all that is. 

Leave behind all you know

All you love

Leave behind pain and suffering

Whenever we cease our flow of thoughts, and all of the attachments, expectations and desires they bring, we can access our sensations of connection, flow and all that is.

This is what death is

With no personal thoughts to create our illusion of separateness, we are left in a state of connection to the larger flow of being. This is what it is to live in the gap of life with wisdom, clarity and purpose.

1371 Relax and Succeed - Our egos darkness

We are infinite beings with infinite possibilities. Yet each morning we each rise to fill our minds with memories of our pasts, resurrections of belief, and ideas about our future. It is as though we are are a patient with amnesia; a blank slate on which external sources can rewrite our old and painful identity.

We do that repetition despite knowing that we have seen others –and we ourselves have at times– had moments of awakening in which we suddenly saw a small glimmer of our freedom. A new job, a proposal, a divorce, a new place to live, a willingness to move past some event, or even some simple change in our habits, or in how we choose to view our Selves.

It is our nature to develop this ego. For we cannot enjoy the pleasure of being found –or of coming home– if we are not first lost and away. And every path can only be defined by where the path is not.

This is the natural yin and yang of life. This is why our wisdom is a practice, as all lives will ebb and flow between our thoughts of being lost, isolated and separate, to a state of being, wherein we thoughtlessly return to a state of knowing, connection and meaning.

We are never wrong. We are never lost. Our only purpose is our journey. And through our experiences of both wants and needs, we can come to appreciate the vastness of what we represent. And once our appreciation is full and complete, we are free from the bonds of resistant thought, leaving us to naturally flow back into the greater whole.

My own task is simple. I am here for only one purpose. I am here to help others move from the separateness of thought, to the wholeness of being, but they light they see is always theirs.

peace. s

The Mirror

1337 Relax and Succeed - The Mirror

I’m sorry. I know it’s painful. It’s awkward, and it makes you turn your eyes away. You may even wince when it happens. It’s such an ugly, twisted idea. How anyone could contort the real, secret you into something so beautiful and lovable that you would actually deserve a glowing compliment? You simply can’t imagine.

That is really what is really holding us back from gaining greater access to our most profound capacities: a lack of imagination. Our imaginations are too limited for most of us to be able to even grasp how strong and wonderful we really are.

I’m sorry that it hurts and that it’s uncomfortable to hear about, but I can’t help it. This is me looking you in the eye and saying to you: I’m sorry, but you’re worth it. You’re worth all the hassles the world undertakes to allow you to exist.

You’re not only worth it, you’re integral. You’re valuable, and really quite beautiful as a being. Incredible really. Loving, and open and strong.

Their love for you is why people get upset if they feel they are moving away from you, or if they’ve let you down and that you might move away from them. It’s heartbreaking for them to think of living away from you. So much so that even the thought of it can make the strongest people in your life cry. You are a wonder. You really are.

I realize this is difficult for your imagination to get wrapped around. It’s so much bigger an idea than the one you started this with that I feel for you. It must feel like you’re trying to carry a two meter square box all by yourself. But you’ll get used to it. I’m just the first one saying it this clearly, but many people feel this way about you, both to your knowledge and secretly.

1337 Relax and Succeed - Mental health is largely

Them thinking it is nice, but you’ll be uncomfortable with their compliments until you feel their source yourself. But that feels too big right? That’s egotistical if you give yourself that credit, right? No. No that is not right.

It is not egotistical to let your light shine, it’s egotistical to think that our light dims anyone else’s. But we have to let our spirits shine. That isn’t egotistical, that’s what we’re searching for. That’s what the world wants from us.

That thing inside you; that thing that won’t let you say great things about yourself? That thing that locks away the idea that you’re good enough for a great life? That’s just internal resistance. It’s entirely thought-based. Everyone feels that. Even Mother Teresa’s diary talked about moments of doubt. It’s part of the journey. But you’ve done doubt. Your lifetime has been built around doubt. It’s time for acceptance.

Accept yourself. Warts and all. Understand that our imaginations are the issue, and that you really are exactly what the universe honed you to be. Do the stars question the heavens about the authenticity of their light?

Do not use your thoughts to stifle your light. You are so big, so beautiful, so strong, and so resilient that you can face failure and success with near equal grace. You know you are not in an ego based competition, you are confidently and simply being you, just as the universe intended. Your search is over Now go, and Be.

peace, s