Setting an Intention

Thank you for being so enthusiastic about this year’s plan. It was wise of many of you to involve a family member or co-worker so you can help keep each other on track. That’s definitely a good idea and it will help.

844 Relax and Succeed - I am thankfulSo what’s first? If you’ve read me much then you know that the most important thing you can do with your consciousness is either want or appreciate. A little want is irritation, more is frustration, a lot is anger and if you hate things so much that you want to be someone else–that’s depression. Your other choice is appreciation. A little leaves you pleased. More makes you happy and a lot makes you joyful. And at maximum manifestation you disappear and you become so huge you need nothing–in fact you are so overflowing that it becomes your nature to give.

So how do we do it? I started off yesterday by saying mornings are important. In the morning all the wiring in your brain that makes you you is just sitting there. It’s not active yet. You spent the night integrating your memories from the previous day. So before you start wanting it not to be a workday, or wanting it to be warmer or later or with someone else or somewhere else just stop, sit down with your notebook and pen, settle your thoughts and then start with Day 1:

Set an intention for your life: gratitude. Then write down at least 5 things you are grateful for. Health, love, your parents, the writers of your favourite show, a visit from a much-loved friend, whatever you like. Include what you’re grateful about in your past and what you’re grateful will happen today. Remember, even your legs are something a lot of people in a wheelchair would love to have more than any other thing in the world and yet when were you last grateful you could walk? When you were two?

844 Relax and Succeed - When you arise in the morningIf you find it hard to write your list at the start then the good news is you’ll benefit more than the rest of us. Now remember–this is a practice. This should happen every workday at least, and always during your quiet time with no interruptions. No music, just the sound of the pen on the paper and the slow creation of the list. This tells your brain what wiring to warm up for your day and it literally makes it more likely that you’ll pay attention to the driver that let you into traffic than you will on the guy that cut you off. Doing the opposite is what makes life feel like hell.

People suffer by death of a thousand cuts. Every time you judge another person or people–or even nature or yourself–you do this by wanting. Once you shift from wanting to the more natural appreciating your life changes. So save yourself from finishing the day hacked to bits by your thinking. Appreciate instead. Go ahead. Start your list. And include something about yourself in there too. Something you’re grateful you can do or something you are, like healthy.

Now this is all supposed to happen very early in the morning so if your timezone doesn’t sync with mine, just follow one day behind and read yesterday’s today and today’s tomorrow. Do this each workday and by next year we will have successfully rewired your brain to ignore wanting  in favour of gratitude.

844 Relax and Succeed - If you focus on resultsYou build billions of new body cells each day and while you keep brain cells for life, you do build close to 1500 neurons a day and that’s what we want working for us. What creates them is you expanding yourself through play or education or experience. Or complaining. The choice is yours. It’s just a matter of: what do you want to be good at?

Just watch how much easier it gets each week to find things for your list. By the end of the month you won’t have enough time to write out all the stuff you’ve been noticing. That’s a great sign that the rewiring is working.

So easy right? All you have to do is wake up, write down five things each morning that you’re genuinely grateful for and you’re done. Easy peasy. You’ve got this. As long as this is done sincerely, this absolutely will change you starting right away and that change will continue to the point where a year from now you won’t have the same mind you do now. It’s gonna be awesome.

Enjoy your day. I love you all.

peace. s

PS From here forward these will post in my usual morning run, after you’ve written in your gratitude journal. Each Monday I’ll get you started early and then you can use the later blogs to tune and enhance your meditation.

The Friday Dose #21


401 Relax and Succeed - You've gotta have a little fun

A reader recently pointed out to me that I had strayed from my original mission with The Friday Dose. What was supposed to be a store-house of cool mind-grabbing things that could be used to pull you away from painful thought patterns, instead became just an external link version of more of the blog. True dat. And so with Dose #21 I’m going back to the original mission. Yes, some of those posts might still be about what the blog’s about, but overall it’s going to be designed to be purely fascinating so that you can use it as a tool when you want to shift your thinking. Rather than stopping the pain better to be starting the enjoyment. The Friday Dose will be here for you, providing a source of go-to mind absorbing details about the universe. Enjoy.

Now I’m a drummer, so it makes sense that I would be biased, but at the very least I think you might enjoy one of the Phil Collins solos that’s included in this post. It discusses one point that I’ve often made with other drummers. I find there’s a slavish dedication to a strange thing called perfect time that’s seen by many as a pinnacle. I don’t “count” as a drummer, and matching an external human-invented device like a clock seems a very odd connection to make when playing music. Why would we think something that comes from our soul would need to be squeezed through a time processor like a clock? That literally makes no sense to me. What’s wrong with a song’s rhythm or beat shifting? I would suggest that the fractal that shows up in human heart-rates seashells and flower petals is also present in music and that a good drummer gets in tune with that:

Science Shows Drummers Have Different Brains


Remember the lady who got millions suing McDonald’s because their coffee was hot? Remember how angry everyone was, and how much she was mocked? Well I want to use her here because here’s a great example of people passing around a myth and having strong and uniform judgments about it and yet virtually everyone is operating with nothing more than a smidgen of information about what actually happened. Well if you thought this lady won a frivolous suit, that’s because the news media thought the story would have more legs if they presented it in a way that upset you. That’s the stuff people talk about around the water cooler at work—and the news knows it. Because the real story was more complicated, and more interesting, and in it the little old lady was the most noble person in it:

The Real Lady Who Sued McDonald’s For Having Hot Coffee


I know what I believe I know. But since tons of science is constantly proven incorrect, we cannot even claim science as some solid unmoving ground from which we can review the world. Even science itself proved this principle. As we all know, we’ve been told to eat eggs, not eat eggs, eat eggs, not eat eggs… fat’s good for you, sugar’s bad, then sugar’s bad and fat’s good. And on it goes. So why argue with anyone when we know that neither of us knows for sure and we could both have been misinformed—as in the previous case with the little old lady from McDonald’s. How many untrue things have you lived presuming they were true? I know when I looked I had tons and tons of them. My debating with others seems hilarious to me now. It’s much more fun living in uncertainty than certainty:

What Fake Things Do You Believe In?


And let’s finish off with some Love. Some Mike Love. This doesn’t need words from me. It just needs your ears. This is some fine work. Enjoy:


Have a great weekend!

peace. s

The Friday Dose is a collection of cool, interesting and surprising things that are chosen for their potential to distract you away from any painful thought loops that may currently be disrupting your sense of perspective. Save these for when you’re feeling low and you want to change your perspective. They’ll help Enjoy. And please let me know if you bump into any broken links. Thanks!