Thank you for being so enthusiastic about this year’s plan. It was wise of many of you to involve a family member or co-worker so you can help keep each other on track. That’s definitely a good idea and it will help.
So what’s first? If you’ve read me much then you know that the most important thing you can do with your consciousness is either want or appreciate. A little want is irritation, more is frustration, a lot is anger and if you hate things so much that you want to be someone else–that’s depression. Your other choice is appreciation. A little leaves you pleased. More makes you happy and a lot makes you joyful. And at maximum manifestation you disappear and you become so huge you need nothing–in fact you are so overflowing that it becomes your nature to give.
So how do we do it? I started off yesterday by saying mornings are important. In the morning all the wiring in your brain that makes you you is just sitting there. It’s not active yet. You spent the night integrating your memories from the previous day. So before you start wanting it not to be a workday, or wanting it to be warmer or later or with someone else or somewhere else just stop, sit down with your notebook and pen, settle your thoughts and then start with Day 1:
Set an intention for your life: gratitude. Then write down at least 5 things you are grateful for. Health, love, your parents, the writers of your favourite show, a visit from a much-loved friend, whatever you like. Include what you’re grateful about in your past and what you’re grateful will happen today. Remember, even your legs are something a lot of people in a wheelchair would love to have more than any other thing in the world and yet when were you last grateful you could walk? When you were two?
If you find it hard to write your list at the start then the good news is you’ll benefit more than the rest of us. Now remember–this is a practice. This should happen every workday at least, and always during your quiet time with no interruptions. No music, just the sound of the pen on the paper and the slow creation of the list. This tells your brain what wiring to warm up for your day and it literally makes it more likely that you’ll pay attention to the driver that let you into traffic than you will on the guy that cut you off. Doing the opposite is what makes life feel like hell.
People suffer by death of a thousand cuts. Every time you judge another person or people–or even nature or yourself–you do this by wanting. Once you shift from wanting to the more natural appreciating your life changes. So save yourself from finishing the day hacked to bits by your thinking. Appreciate instead. Go ahead. Start your list. And include something about yourself in there too. Something you’re grateful you can do or something you are, like healthy.
Now this is all supposed to happen very early in the morning so if your timezone doesn’t sync with mine, just follow one day behind and read yesterday’s today and today’s tomorrow. Do this each workday and by next year we will have successfully rewired your brain to ignore wanting in favour of gratitude.
You build billions of new body cells each day and while you keep brain cells for life, you do build close to 1500 neurons a day and that’s what we want working for us. What creates them is you expanding yourself through play or education or experience. Or complaining. The choice is yours. It’s just a matter of: what do you want to be good at?
Just watch how much easier it gets each week to find things for your list. By the end of the month you won’t have enough time to write out all the stuff you’ve been noticing. That’s a great sign that the rewiring is working.
So easy right? All you have to do is wake up, write down five things each morning that you’re genuinely grateful for and you’re done. Easy peasy. You’ve got this. As long as this is done sincerely, this absolutely will change you starting right away and that change will continue to the point where a year from now you won’t have the same mind you do now. It’s gonna be awesome.
Enjoy your day. I love you all.
PS From here forward these will post in my usual morning run, after you’ve written in your gratitude journal. Each Monday I’ll get you started early and then you can use the later blogs to tune and enhance your meditation.
Following a serious childhood brain injury Scott McPherson unwittingly spent his entire life meditating on the concepts of thought, consciousness, reality and the self. This made him as strange to others as they were to him. Seeing the self-harm people created with their own overthinking, Scott dedicated part of his life to helping others live with greater awareness. He is currently a writer, speaker and mindfulness instructor based in Edmonton, AB, where he finds it strange to write about himself in the third person.