Wave Energy

Okay, this one’s simple, but it can be tricky to grasp at first. Not difficult—tricky. It would be unreasonable to call tying your shoes difficult but—when you’re first learning—it is tricky. Okay. Ready?

547 Relax and Succeed - Feelings are much like wavesWaves don’t push beach balls towards the shore because the ball is sitting on the water, not on a wave. The weight of the water versus the lightness of the beach ball causes the beach ball to float on the substance that is water. That is how they interact. In this metaphor, the reality of you the ball, and the external reality of the water, are where the two realities come to exist by their very meeting. But just like with the beach, don’t mistake the water for the wave.

The water is neutral. It’s the energy in the wave that acts up0n the water. The energy and frequency will dictate the wave, not the water. Meaning you are better to invest your life in paying attention to the frequency, magnitude and speed of the wave than you are to the temperature or look of the water. To turn the metaphor around, you’re better to invest your life paying attention to the energy behind your thoughts, than you to pay attention to external events. The events, like the water, will be dictated by the energy that’s put into that reality by your thoughts.

You know this energy as your feelings or emotions. These are feelings you know well, and yet you’ve spent almost no time truly considering their origins. Someone can insult you, but if you don’t respect them, then the insult means nothing. Another person can insult you, but if you do respect them, then you will choose to believe that idea by thinking it about yourself, and that act will lead you to suffer. Whatever thought you have generates a kind of energy that creates the wave that either raises or lowers your ball.

547 Relax and Succeed - What a liberationYour sense of being comes from your thinking about the world. You can be in intake mode where you are aware, or output mode where you are creating an ego by having a thought-conversation with yourself. If you think angry or busy or worried ego-thoughts, then you will feel angry, tired and afraid. But if you’re in intake mode, you’ll feel appreciation in some form.

Don’t get caught up in battling with the water. Focus on the wave. Feel its energy. And steer yourself accordingly. If one part of the wave is unpleasant, then shift the weight of your thinking onto something more positive and/or enriching. Because there are no perfect waves. There are just waves that get surfed almost perfectly.

Stop treating your egocentric narrative like it’s anyone else’s reality. Those thought-waves are yours and yours alone. Only you feel them. You find reality when you’re not-thinking. When you are open and aware. Then you’re available to feel the universe. You can ride the energy of an experience much like you can a wave. You just have to remember to put more of your weight on catching the flow of the most enriching experiences available. Feel the energy beneath you. You are a part of it. Pay attention. 😉

peace. s

Surfing Through Life

Having lived for a time in Australia, I join many others in using surfing as a good metaphor for life. Simply put, everyone’s waiting in the water for the perfect wave so that they can show everyone on shore how good a surfer they are. But the point was never to be impressive to others. The point was to surf. It was never a competition.

37 Relax and Succeed - You can't stop the wavesDespite these facts, instead of our spirit surfing anything that looks fun, our egos ignore our personal enjoyment in favour of paddling after waves that will offer us more opportunities to look impressive to other surfers and watchers on shore.

But even if they are impressed, that’s an experience that happens in their consciousness not ours. We don’t feel that, they do. So that’s a nonsensical reason for us to do something. We can’t even be sure they would be paying attention to us while we were being impressive. In fact, we can be pretty sure they weren’t, because they’re an ego just like you are. So they’re doing the very same thing you are—they’re sitting there trying to figure out if they’re being impressive to you!

When the sun starts to set on your life, you start to realize that you’re only on this beach for one big long day. And you realize that means there are only so many waves left. Your fellow surfers and people on the beach have all constantly rotated your entire life, so there was never a way to be impressive to them anyway. There never was an audience. It never was a show. Everyone was just supposed to surf.

37 Relax and Succeed - Ladies and gentlemenSay yes to life. Jump on, be daring and see where it takes you. People’s word-based judgments of you are truly meaningless because they do not change the waves—the worst they can do is push you off your surfboard for a time. But you need to volunteer for that by choosing to place value on their judgments. Certainly if you encounter a happy surfer with good advice, it’s worth it to pay attention. But do not mistake others judgments of your life as any indication of its value.

The only adjudicator of your life is you. The only thing that matters is if you enjoyed your experience of surfing. No opinion can take that away from you unless you choose to adopt it by thinking it to yourself—and I can’t imagine why you would want to do that.

Forget impressive. Be childish. It does not matter how many times you fall in. Just climb back on and move toward excitement and joy. There are fewer hours in the day than you realize.

Happy surfing.

peace. s