The Friday Dose #101

873 Relax and Succeed - Eckhart TolleDid you enjoy the accidental blog yesterday? That was supposed to drop on Monday but apparently I wasn’t very careful choosing my calendar date. Oh well. I’d rather give you too much than too little.

Today we’ll finish the week with Eckhart Tolle and his discussion of the non-thinking fully-present you. Remember, you are not the thoughts–that’s your ego. You are the thing that thinks your ego into existence. Let thoughts go. Simply be aware.

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Learn to see your thinking as dis-ease. The presence Eckhart mentions is the incredibly powerful, stable, confident state of being that emerges when you stop pushing your personal thoughts outward and instead you use the same conduit to allow the world inside you. It’s why kids learn so fast when they’re little. Let yourself go. Stop arguing with the world. Let it be and let yourself be. It’s all much more perfect that you can currently even imagine.

Have a wonderful weekend everyone.

peace. s

Scott McPherson is an Edmonton-based writer, public speaker, and mindfulness facilitator who works with individuals, companies and non-profit organizations around the world.

Body Language

871 Relax and Succeed - I will attract into my lifeSome of you have taken up the meditations and really given them some consideration during your day and already you’re subtly feeling the effects. Now let’s use your increased awareness of what you want to move toward and away from, and now we can develop a way for you to steer yourself using every tool available.

Your mind stores ideas of you and the world in much, much more complex ways than you currently imagine. It’s why we walk and age like our parents and we can always ride a bike. We might have to find the part of us where the bike is, but when we do we’ll have a lot of it back at once. Well, we want to make happiness like bike riding.

Why does the bike riding work? Muscle “memory,” although all of you is smart. Your mind is your experience of it all–but your being does know how to ride in a way that’s difficult for you to comprehend. But because happiness doesn’t require your balance and because falling off is less immediately painful, people don’t store happiness with the same detail that they store bike riding. So let’s change that.

871 Relax and Succeed - Be an optimist primeFor the next few days just monitor your mood and your being. Notice signs of you being low or signs of you being up or signs of you being angry etc. etc. Maybe it’s how you talk, maybe it’s how your breathe or stand. Maybe you walk differently or keep your eyes fixed somewhere differently. For instance, if I start to feel hurried my hand will curl into the position it was in immediate after my accident. That will lead me to stand up and shake out the tension, do my breathing exercise and then settle back into work in a different frame of mind.

Know signs that you’re in a state of mind you enjoy and don’t enjoy. Then (unless you’re learning something valuable), you can just use your “memory” of what your body moves like when it feels good and you can literally steer it away from feeling bad. Your thoughts and resulting brain chemistry will trigger a smile but a smile will also need a bit of brain chemistry. It’s like boosting your car or fiddling with a radio dial. Make yourself an antenna for nice feelings.

Don’t think this is hard because you already do this. Maybe it was an important work day and you were sick but you bucked up and went–the act of “bucking up” was the conscious switch. Likewise when someone can tough it through a bad cold for a day out in the snow with friends, whereas a day of work would tilt them towards resting. You do this all the time. Start doing it on purpose, not just when your family patterns and habits would suggest it.

871 Relax and Succeed - It's not hardIf you’re focused on learning about yourself you’ll have less attention to pay to others. That’s good because as we discussed yesterday, their opinions are varied, fleeting and meaningless in almost every single case. Better that you’re focused on your own life. You’re amazing. Get to know you and you’ll realize you have all kinds of ways to influence yourself.

Get conscious. Less thinking about others and yourself and more just watching and noticing. You don’t have to search or make efforts to change. Just observe. Trust me, if you’re mindfully observing you won’t need any help in noticing useful things. Then when you catch yourself demonstrating low behaviour you can decide to switch to something nicer whenever you’re ready. Just adopt the physical signals that your body recognizes as happiness and shift your thoughts to the nicest things available. The rest your body will know how to do by nature. It really is that easy. Enjoy.

peace. s

Scott McPherson is an Edmonton-based writer, public speaker, and mindfulness facilitator who works with individuals, companies and non-profit organizations around the world.

Other Perspectives #74

If you don’t read this blog carefully you might think I would unequivocally support this statement. It seems to fit with a lot of what I talk about: Your thoughts are powerful, you feel what you think, so be conscious of what you think. But experiences do not bother you when you feel you have chosen them. So feel that way about the whole of your life. Yes, understand how powerful negative thinking can be and do not do it for its own sake. But without not-path there can be no path. So to have things you prefer you must also accept that there must be things you don’t prefer and that the only way you know one from the other is by experiencing them. Negative thoughts aren’t worse than positive thoughts. They just feel different. If you don’t find a feeling to be rewarding in this moment you can always change it in the next. The important thing isn’t whether you chose positive versus negative, it’s that you stayed aware of your ability to choose between them.

peace. s

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Are You Ready For Love?

91 Relax and Succeed - It long since come to my attentionYou want your life to be different. Do you see the problem? You want it. Wanting is a verb. It’s a spiral within yourself—like gazing half the day at a photo of something in a catalogue. Thinking about something that you do not have is what you are being. You are in the act of wanting.

If you actually want the thing in the catalogue you have to figure out the steps that might lead to you having it, and then if you feel they’re worth it you have to take those steps. Wanting to be healthier won’t do anything for your body. Finding enjoyable activities that improve your health are abundant. And many of them are social. So it’s time to stop wanting. It’s time to get out of our habitual thought-caves.

If you want more caring in the world; if you want more patience, tolerance, kindness and compassion—then demonstrate it. Make it the verb you become. Rather than experiencing want you can be compassionate. You can demonstrate patience and tolerance. You can simply be kind to a stranger. These are all forms of love. These are times when our thoughts are quiet and we are simply and truly being with someone. In that state, we are rich because we have nothing we want.

91a Relax and Succeed - Do something todayIf you are expressing compassion you will feel the gentle warmth of compassionate feelings. If you are angry your body will tense up in its biochemical response to your thoughts. If you are patient you will be peaceful. If you are wanting the world to be different than it isi.e. I wish this lineup would move faster—then you will feel disrupted, frustrated and upset.

What is good for you is good for the world. When you encourage enjoyable chemistry for your own experience you also happen to behave very generously. This can form an excellent feedback loop of love, as is often seen during the reactions to major tragedies. People forget divisions and they focus on enacting their love. Bridges are often figuratively and literally built that way.

Don’t look for love. Create it. The ability is entirely in your control. So Be it. It’s stunningly attractive, it’s highly enjoyable, and you’ll actually make the world a better place.

Enjoy.

peace. s

Scott McPherson is an Edmonton-based writer, public speaker, and mindfulness facilitator who works with individuals, companies and non-profit organisations locally and around the world.