Okay I can go with this quote provided the definition of “say so” is broad enough. As Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages rightfully points out, love can be communicated through words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gifts, or quality time. You can’t ask your partner to have a different history and to have become a different person just because you’re dating them. That’s fatally immature. Your job in life is simply to appreciate. So rather than tell your partner how to show you love in a way that is unnatural for them, make it a part of your nature to expand to the point where you can come to appreciate the treasures contained in their form of delivering love. Don’t wait in expectation of getting something you fantasized about, instead be aware and anticipate the surprises that will emerge out of their demonstrations of love. Either way, in the end love is love, and we’ll always recognize it if our minds and hearts are open.
Note: Everyone who posts or shares a quote does so with the very best of intentions. That said, I have created the series of Other Perspectives blog posts in an effort to prevent some of these ideas from entering into people’s consciousness unchallenged. These quotes range from silly to dangerous and—while I intend no offense to their creators—I do use these rebuttals to help define and delineate the larger message I’m attempting to convey in my own work. I do hope you find them helpful in your pursuit of both psychological and spiritual health.
A serious childhood brain injury lead Scott to spend his entire life meditating on the concepts of thought, consciousness, reality and identity. It made others as strange to him as he was to them. When he realized people were confused by their own over-thinking, Scott began teaching others to understand reality. He is currently CBC Radio Active’s Wellness Columnist, as well as a writer, speaker and mindfulness instructor based in Edmonton, AB where he still finds it strange to write about himself in the third person.