The Friday Dose #24

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We all see chances to do it every single day. Chance after chance after chance. If we only took one or two per day we would literally change the world. We would set a different kind of example for kids. Instead of teaching them to shop for more stuff we could teach them to express themselves through kind and generous acts. This isn’t hard. And it’s far from painful. It feels awesome. Generous people aren’t generous because they’re stupid. It’s because they’re selfish. They know it feels fantastic to help another human being. Or even an animal or the planet itself. Despite what advertising tells you, it feels good to share and to not be driven all the time by want. Take a look at these wonderful examples. And I hope you’ll use them as inspiration in your own life:

Random Acts of Kindness


I have a lot of people come to me on SSRIs or other pharmaceuticals that they would like to stop taking, either because they feel dependent, or because they can’t make certain connections in life, as in cases with people who are artists but cannot access their creative self, or people who lose interest in their relationships or in sex. I only have my own views on this subject and I can certainly clear the air in the sense that if people learn to control their thinking better then they do tend to know more certainly what they want to do about medications. But there are a lot of datapoints worth taking in in the debate. Here’s a recent interview on the subject. If you’ve been thinking about quitting too, this will likely interest you:

Robert Whitaker on the Evidence Behind Antidepressant Drugs


There’s a lot of you that think you’re pretty clear-headed. That you’re pretty kind and fair-minded and that you’re a do-the-right-thing kind of person. But the difference between us is that I know I fall into ego all the time and I say and do and chase and avoid all kinds of things that are entirely foolish. But because I know that, I do that less than you. I’m humble. I’m on guard. I know I’ll slip, so I aim toward keeping my attention—my consciousness—focused on the moment I’m in. Here’s one example of something that might make you too uncomfortable. Something that you would have thoughts about that would prevent you from relaxing into love. It’s worth thinking about. There’s a lot of life experience on the other side of our fears.



Focus on the many things you have to be grateful for. Share your gratitude with the world through your smile, your kind words and your thoughtful gestures. Cause the world to be a better place because you are making it that way with the verb of your life. There’s nothing like it. It truly feels wonderful even when it doesn’t. Have a wonderful weekend everyone.

peace. s

The Friday Dose is a collection of cool, interesting and surprising things that are chosen for their potential to distract you away from any painful thought loops that may currently be disrupting your sense of perspective. Save these for when you’re feeling low and you want to change your perspective. They’ll help Enjoy. And please let me know if you bump into any broken links. Thanks!

The Friday Dose #4: Pop Culture Escapes

We keep being sold the idea that there’s an easier way. We want to be smart without studying, we want to be strong without lifting, we want to be rich without working. Religion was too rigid so we shifted to Spirituality, but then Spirituality needed us to meditate and awwwisn’t there some Savior who can do this part for me?

299 Relax and Succeed - At the gym you understandWhat we really need to do is surrender the idea that life is beatable. There is no perfect easy life for anyone to live. That’s not what the happy people are doing. They’re accepting. What are they accepting? That life is a simple cause and effect system. Accept that and anyone can actually function very successfully. Try to fight that truth and you’re in for some real suffering no matter who you think you are.

Today’s prescription focuses somewhat on false ideas that our society carries forward to its own detriment. The first is hardly an uncommon topic for me. Having worked in media for many years I’m now acutely tuned to the many ways in which it poisons the psychology of otherwise healthy individuals. This music video for the song Nouveau Parfum by Hungarian singer-songwriter Boggie is an testament to the lack of reality behind our impressions of reality.

Photoshop Exposed by Boggie Video for Nouveau Parfum


The second entry involves the medicalization of life. We do not need a cure for being sad. We shouldn’t be surprised that people who experience shocking things will need some time and strategies to re-adjust. And if someone’s recently lost a close loved one, then them being stricken with grief is to a degree very understandable and healthy. It is only when we get locked into these states that we are in trouble. Otherwise we are merely experiencing whatever is suitable given the circumstances. And if we didn’t want those feelings in our lives at all, then why would we volunteer to feel them when we watch movies or television?

A Psychiatrist’s Warning about Antidepressants


A299 Relax and Succeed - I stand for honestynd finally here’s a kid (Elias Pheonix) who’s very popular in his own world, and now the rest of the world is finding out about him because he’s on a very popular show. The reason I’m including this video in the Friday Dose is because a) this kid has a lot to teach people about being alive and being free, and b) he’s contagious, and c) he’s a genius. If you enjoy him as much as Ellen and I did, then consider sharing him with a friend or a co-worker who’s having a rough day:


.And you have yourself a great day. Because a lot more of it is up to us than we sometimes remember. But if we stay vigilant and focus on where our consciousness is focused we can pretty easily steer ourselves to better feelings. So stay alert and have fun. That’s all you really need to do.

peace. s

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