Slow for Improvement

1265 Relax and Succeed - Wonderful things will happen todayLife is filled with choices and one of the first ones we make is why, when and how we wake up in the morning. The slowest, gentlest awakening allows us to make a gradual shift from our sleeping state to our waking. Waking up at the last possible minute to a screaming alarm, means that the very first encounter that your mind has with the day is being startled into it with panic and demands. It’s not an ideal start.

If we’re tired a lot, rather than going to bed earlier, most people get louder alarms and shock themselves even worse in the morning. This exacerbates the problem when the real answer is to stop paying attention to schedules and days and time and try to pay more attention to how you feel. This doesn’t make you late if you do it right, it makes you flow. You have to have an awful lot of fun in those hours before bed before you’ll equal the life advantages to being well-rested for the entire next day.

Listen to your body when it screams for sleep. Adjust your life accordingly; don’t make it one of the many bricks you voluntarily take on that weight down your day. Even if you’re late, rushing is a compulsion but it’s generally not effective. We get out of our routine and we spend so much time getting mad at ourselves by forgetting things. That’s compounded by our own mapping out the consequences of being late, from traffic, to angry bosses, to the worst parking spot on the lot, that it just leads us to make more and more mistakes, which leads to more angry conversations when in the end the only cure would not be to fix the time but to fix your mindset.

1265 Relax and Succeed - May your choices reflect your hopesThe time you can’t change. Your approach to your day is always yours to choose. Breathe. Again: understand the value of how you start. Take a few moments to appreciate it. Don’t judge it, don’t give it weather or time or any other meaning, just wake. Then take a moment to collect yourself. You can note if you’re late that you’ll need to be efficient, but that’s setting an intention, not generating panic.

We’re not comparing ourselves to being perfect, we’re noting that our day will require us to be sharp, and so setting that tone consciously allows us to be doing what is appropriate rather than rushing to simply meet a schedule with no value placed on the mindset we arrive in. Can you see that harried days happen in your head, while the more focused ones are more of a verb; an action? We need to center ourselves over that action and not the words around the action.

In the end, most people’s lives are bad because they are completely unmanaged. People put far more attention into some trivial thing they purchase than they do toward managing their own days. Too often our lives aren’t coordinated or designed to create a rewarding life, they strictly meet the current tyranny of a clock.

1265 Relax and Succeed - The ego is nothing otherWe often still need to be places at specific times to coordinate our efforts with others, but that still leaves us with ample choices about our bedtime, our sleeping arrangements, and how we choose to wake up. Don’t let daily life experiences like that happen by accident and without consideration of how your morning can set the stage for a healthy day. Wake up gently, feel the qualities of a worthwhile day gathering, and when you feel enthusiasm for the day strike, that’s your time to move.

Don’t live out of blind habit. Take a moment in the morning after waking to simply assert to your being. What sort of day do you intend to extract from your daily events? Will you watch for their downsides or their upsides? You can always switch at any moment during your day, but no moment sets the right tone for a day like those first moments after waking. Spend them wisely.

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Scott McPherson is an Edmonton-based writer, public speaker, and mindfulness facilitator who works with individuals, companies and non-profit organizations locally and around the world.

Restarting With Intention

1214 Relax and Succeed - I myself am made entirely of flawsI hope your summer’s were rewarding in many ways. As we come back together to grow and share, I’ve decided to experiment with a new mix of elements for the blog. There still will be my traditional essays, but I’ll also be adding some new approaches and revisiting some old ones in the hopes that they can help facilitate some very practical benefits in all of our lives.

Today we’ll start off by talking about starting off. The whole point of taking control of your life involves being intentional about how you live. So don’t start each day in some hazy, unfocused, directionless way. Many people will begin by speculating about their day based on opinions they’ve formed on previous days. Then, whether they day wanted to surprise them or not, they’ll unconsciously steer their day like every other, blind to any opportunities for change.

The other way to wake up is to know that your mood is in your own control. You can have a calm Captain in both light and heavy seas. So don’t wake up and let chance decide the direction of the day. Remind yourself that your conscious choices will shape your day. You need to remember to be present for those choices.

Relax and Succeed - Try less to be with someoneThe first choice you can make is to actually provide yourself the sort of stimuli that makes it easy for you to feel good. For many, the handiest and surest way to accomplish this is the same way movies do it–with music. So you can find your own song, or you can use the one I’ve posted below. For my part, I chose something with a beat and a sound that I thought could work for readers around the globe, of any age, and leave them feeling just a little pumped up.

The point of this exercise is to demonstrate that to be spiritually responsible and psychologically healthy, we have to have those as conscious objectives and we must always be scanning the world around us for opportunities to move toward the sorts of influences and challenges that create joy and/or help us grow. To do that we need to feel vital and energetic.

I actually had a different song slated for this spot, but on Sunday I heard a singer I’d never heard before and I felt her song was a perfect fit to match my description of what I was looking for. I didn’t want to overdo it, but I wanted a beat and sound that could charge you up in a very mature and sophisticated way.

Her name is Erin Costelo, she’s from Nova Scotia, and this song is rather ironically called Low. It’s pretty groovy. Use it or whatever song helps you feel balanced, capable and enthusiastic about your own life. Learn to start your day like this every day. Make that a habit and you’ll have really helped yourself become more conscious all day long. Have a great week everyone.

peace. s

Scott McPherson is an Edmonton-based writer, public speaker, and mindfulness facilitator who works with individuals, companies and non-profit organisations locally and around the world.

A New Beginning

843 Relax and Succeed - Being in a hurryAre you ready? We’re all going to make the slow-motion resolution. We’re going to undertake a weekly series of easy, enjoyable practices and meditations that will increase our peace and awareness and from that place other changes will start happening naturally.

These exercises will be designed to be manageable for your life and for the most part they’ll also be fun. Mondays I’ll set out the meditation. Tuesdays and Wednesdays I’ll offer a relatively short discussions to expand on the original idea and Thursdays will be reserved for any announcements. (I need to drop a writing day to create more time to work on the books that are being edited.) On Friday’s I’ll still put together a Dose but it will change slightly in structure.

To start this week’s meditation tomorrow you’ll only need three things. A notebook and something to write with that isn’t a keyboard. A pencil or pen–it has to be tactile. Then figure out when your quiet time is. It is much preferable that this process is done first thing when you wake up, while your mind is still clear and you can intentionally establish it’s awarenesses for that day. It’s why almost every successful writer I know–especially those with small kids–starts at either 5am or 6am.

843 Relax and Succeed - If you know meAs you achieve more peace you’ll sleep better, have more energy and you’ll naturally eat better. So get your book and pen, find your time and tomorrow we’ll start. This will be a gentle easy year-long process so if you have friends that also want to make big changes then this is the time. Share this with them and they can start with the rest of us.

Once that you see that most of what’s holding you back is your use of your consciousness you’ll simply and easily make the shift toward a better quality state of mind. It isn’t hard when you know how to do it and learning to do it isn’t hard either. It just takes practice. As you start to shift you’ll also positively impact most of the people who deal with you every day and if you have mammals as pets they’ll pick up the difference too.

This is all about mental health, spiritual development and the maximizing of our potential. You all have an amazing amount to offer this world. I’m thrilled to think what the world will look like when we’re all pointing our fantastic energies toward making our lives and the world much better.

843 Relax and Succeed - Our deepest fearFeel as you may about Kanye West but I agree with him when he urges people strongly that, rather than tell him he shouldn’t feel special despite the fact that his life demonstrates he is, we should do as he strongly suggests and feel great about ourselves too and as a result we’ll start finding bigger dreams to bring to life.

You don’t start off broken with some obligation to fix yourself. You’re here to grow. Do not attack who you have been. That person did the best they knew with what they knew. But take this year to find peace and inspiration. Do these meditations. Then be bold: say yes to invitations until you find people and activities that feel good to be around. And then trust your feelings and pursue them. It won’t remove all the pain from your life–every life has pain. But as long as the rewards are far greater it just doesn’t matter. You can have a wonderful life. Let’s go get it.

I’m really looking forward to this. Happy start to your year everyone.

peace. s

Scott McPherson is a writer, public speaker, and mindfulness facilitator who works with individuals, companies and nonprofit organisations around the world.