It’s important to note that this message of empowerment also blindly encourages fighting, as though no circumstances warrant voluntary surrender. This is likely because the context that it was created in was a case where some uncharacteristic effort might have made a big and positive difference in someone’s life. And sometimes the hard work of life is what gets us where we’re going. But far more things were achieved by people trying to love their way closer rather than fighting to maintain or achieve something. There’s people who’ve fought for years to save their marriages and it didn’t work out. That doesn’t make it wasted time, but it shows that a fight is not always the best answer. There’s no fight required if relationships are based on both people being earnestly invested in each others overall well-being. You should be like praying hands. Whether one person’s weak and your hands are to the left, or the other person’s weak and your hands are to the right, either way the hands are still pushing towards each other. Fighting in the context of a relationship is often more like trying to bind two people together with a good argument rather than having them naturally moving toward each other by choice. Good relationships are easy to have because both people want to be in them. So make sure your fights aren’t just selfish arguments for getting your own way. True love wants everyone to feel exalted.
Note: Everyone who posts or shares a quote does so with the very best of intentions. That said, I have created the series of Other Perspectives blog posts in an effort to prevent some of these ideas from entering into people’s consciousness unchallenged. These quotes range from silly to dangerous and—while I intend no offense to their creators—I do use these rebuttals to help define and delineate the larger message I’m attempting to convey in my own work. I do hope you find them helpful in your pursuit of both psychological and spiritual health.
A serious childhood brain injury lead Scott to spend his entire life meditating on the concepts of thought, consciousness, reality and identity. It made others as strange to him as he was to them. When he realized people were confused by their own over-thinking, Scott began teaching others to understand reality. He is currently CBC Radio Active’s Wellness Columnist, as well as a writer, speaker and mindfulness instructor based in Edmonton, AB where he still finds it strange to write about himself in the third person.