143 Relax and Succeed - Sometimes you can't see
Amy hates her curly hair. She wishes she had long, dark, straight hair like Bonnie’s. But…

Bonnie hates how fat her legs are. She wishes she had legs like Caroline’s. But…

Caroline hates her knees. She wishes she could run like her brother Dean. But…

Dean hates running now though. He wishes Evan, his recently deceased friend, was still around to run with him. But

Evan didn’t like running with Dean because it made him look even shorter than he already felt. He always wished he was really tall, like Fez. But…

Fez hates his height. He loves Gurpreet, and she values a well dressed man, and it’s hard to get clothes that fit a guy that tall. But…

Gurpreet hates her addiction to fashion. It makes her a slave to her job. She wishes she had the freedom of her friend Henry. But…

Henry’s a self-employed writer, and he hates that because he has no health care plan. He wishes his brother was a dentist so he could get free care like his friend Isaac gets. But…

Isaac hates having a brother who’s a dentist. His parents are always wishing he would do as well as Jacob, but…

Jacob is divorced and rich, so he feels he can never trust any of the women he dates. He wishes his life was like Kevin’s. But…

Kevin got married at 18 to his high school sweetheart. Meanwhile, a part of Kevin has always wished he’d played the field like his friend Larry. But…

143 Relax and Succeed - Stop comparing
Larry got a few girls pregnant and it’s ruined his financial life. He wishes he would have inherited a lot money like his friend Mary, but…

Mary hates her life. Her father was a tough, ruthless businessman, which made him a tough, ruthless father. She wishes she had a Dad like Nathan. But…

Nathan has never been able to tell his dad that he’s gay. He wishes he had the freedom that his openly gay friend Orlando has. But…

Orlando hates being gay because sometimes it just feels like everyone hates him for no good reason. He wishes his life was like his comedienne friend, Patti. She gets to stand in front of an appreciative audience every night. But…

Patti hates going on stage though. She so nervous she’s usually sick to her stomach. She wishes she was like Quan. He can stay calm no matter what. But…

Quan hates being a comic. Being on the road all the time is what lead to his painkiller addiction. He wishes he was still a healthy young man like Ron, but…

Ron doesn’t know what he wants to do with his life. He wishes he was like Stephen, where he’s already well on his way to a good pension, but…

Stephen hates how safe a life he’s lead. He wishes his life was more exciting, like Terry’s, but…

Terry’s addiction to adventure has cost him a marriage to a woman he loved. But…

Ursula, his ex-wife, doesn’t feel loveable at all since she put on all weight after the divorce. Ursula wishes she was skinny like Velma at work, but…

143 Relax and Succeed - We are all in long-term
Ursula wishes she was skinny like Velma. But Velma suffers from bulimia. She wishes she ate healthier, like her friend Wayne. But…

Wayne hates himself because he lies to his friends about how good his diet is. He wishes he had the humility of Xavier. But…

Xavier hates that he can’t advocate for himself at work so he never gets a raise. He wishes he was more like Yan, who is paid extremely well. But…

Yan hates that pay because what goes with it is lots of responsibility. He wishes he had a life like Zara. She’s an artist that works from home, but…

Zara also has cancer and is bald. And she would give anything to have hair like Amy’s….

Can we see how it happens?? Are we enjoying our lives, or are we wishing for a better one? Because we can live, or we can want. We have to regularly ask ourselves; which one have we been doing more of?

That crazy chain of people pretty much represents what every ego does all day long. Egos always want something other than what they are or have. And there is no way to feel good when you’re in a state of constant wanting.

If we want to feel better in our souls, we need to start appreciating what we already are. That’s how we create a worthwhile life –by noticing it while it’s happening.

We must listen to ourselves. We must stop wanting qualities we do not have and start celebrating what we are. We are not wrong, it’s not silly, and it’s not meaningless. We each uniquely ourselves. We each bring things to the universe that which no one else could bring.

We simply are. The universe intended us to be, and without each of us the universe is missing something. We can stop worrying about what’s missing from us, and start appreciating our own value instead, because it’s a lot easier for other people to do if we do it first.

Respect yourself. Love your own life. And live that love into a beautiful day. 😉

peace. s