As my regular readers know I’ve slightly changed my format this year for Monday through Thursday. Fridays I had historically always posted a video, a re-blog, an article or an audio clip. I had originally planned to continue that plan this year as well—and I will, in a way. What changed it was that as I sat down to write the first one of this year I had something happen that’s never happened in all the time I’ve written this blog—I got stuck. I wrote three different versions but I didn’t like any of them. And I did not feel like writing a fourth. Luckily I teach this stuff so I knew exactly what to do.
Rather than engage in frustrated thoughts where I worried about how late I’d have to work, or about how I should have done this or that differently, instead I got up and went and did dishes. I called up my best friend and stuck my hands in the warm water. In my relaxation and before she could even answer the phone, I realized something. I realized that I had another challenge that I had left un-thought-of because I currently had no solution. Now, in the quiet of my mind—where it was not distracted by any noisy frustrated thinking—these two issues found each other and they co-resolved. My friend and I agreed to talk later and I came back into my office to write this.
I have a lot of readers who come each day to the blog but they neither Follow it, nor do they belong to any social media like facebook, twitter, pinterest or tumblr. But they have expressed interest in what I think about things and, by extension, what things I think about. So their only regret about preferring as much electronic privacy as they have is that they miss out on the other posts I do on facebook that are not a part of the blog. These include links to articles, additional audio and video recordings, or even photos. I got asked to email these each month but that’s simply too prohibitive once there’s a certain number of people, but I think you can see where this is going anyway.
A lot of my friends tell me they count on me for a lot of the really cool and interesting stuff I find on the web. This year Fridays will be when I will post that week’s collection of any material I’ve found that relates to our pursuits here. The nice thing about this switch is that it makes the postings searchable, which is remarkably not possible on facebook.
So what will I include on Fridays? Well, I’ll design them to feel a bit like special discoveries. It will be a case where you never know what exactly you might find, but I’ll endeavour to ensure that you always feel it was worth it to have come. It might be an article on Buddhism or psychology. Or it might be a demonstration of love or an interview with someone who’s done something amazing. It might be some fascinating scientific detail or a medical discovery. It could be a beautiful song, a philosophical stand-up comic, or just a baby or a dog being really really funny. But they will all be things that will be chosen to stretch, challenge and create enjoyment and growth for your mind. They will always relate to what I’m doing here at Relax and Succeed. This new regular instalment will be called: The Friday Dose. I call it that because it’ll always be a dose of something tasty and good for you. Welcome to the First Edition.
We’ll begin with this beautiful story about love and loss, as a music star Fiona Apple demonstrates wonderful courage in what was surely a torrent of complaints, pressure and anger. I’m sure there was discussions of legalities, ethics and conscience, but by demonstrating the values of actual True Love, Fiona demonstrates a healthy kind of selfishness that the world could use more of:
And I’ll also share this empowering piece on Matthieu Ricard, the Buddhist Monk whose brain scans demonstrated that he is the happiest man ever tested:
And if you like that, you might also want to check out this wonderfully engaging video of him:
Please feel free to email me any links you might find to relevant things, and always feel welcome to email me any feedback or requests you have relating to the blog or my social media.
Thank you for your time and attention. I trust you’ll find the postings as rewarding as I did. Enjoy.
The Friday Dose is a collection of cool, interesting and surprising things that are chosen for their potential to distract you away from any painful thought loops that may currently be disrupting your sense of perspective. Save these for when you’re feeling low and you want to change your perspective. They’ll help Enjoy. And please let me know if you bump into any broken links. Thanks!