The past is the past. It’s happened. There’s no do-overs. But the past does not entirely dictate your future and it can obviously be forgotten. And as we now know about memory–every time you recall something you’ll imbue it with the feelings you’re having at the time of the recollection. So your memories not only can be edited, they will be. Despite that quibble, it is true that you can only accept the steps that lead to where you are. The ship can’t alter its wake. But nor can it be directed by it. No matter what unfortunate things have happened to you, once you’ve lived long enough you realize that most of the things you value in life are also somehow also tied to your big supposed missteps. This leads us to question our ideas of good or bad. Because if an addiction or affliction of ours acts as training on how to get someone else through the same tough experience, then in a way our so-called failure was in fact a very special kind of training on how to live a successful life. Know you are complete because you have enough to give. And you are you because of your past. You have much to offer. You are worthy of your own acceptance. Have a wonderful day.
Scott McPherson is a writer, public speaker, and mindfulness facilitator who works with individuals, companies and nonprofit organizations around the world.
A serious childhood brain injury lead Scott to spend his entire life meditating on the concepts of thought, consciousness, reality and identity. It made others as strange to him as he was to them. When he realized people were confused by their own over-thinking, Scott began teaching others to understand reality. He is currently CBC Radio Active’s Wellness Columnist, as well as a writer, speaker and mindfulness instructor based in Edmonton, AB where he still finds it strange to write about himself in the third person.
3 thoughts on “Other Perspectives #84”
I understand what you are saying about the past but there are do-overs and not just on Groundhog Day. I’ve had them.
The past is the past is the past and it cannot be undone. You can do something again–in the current Now–but you’ll be doing it as a different person: the person who learned from the first experience. The issue is that people do not want to move forward until they’ve resolved the past rather than simply realizing that moving forward in a new way is all that there is. There is no past. There is only the current moment and the wisdom we carry into it. If we choose to return to old ideas with a new mind then we are not returning to or fixing the past, we are creating a different future. It’s a very subtle difference.
That’s it exactly exactly. The nature of eternal recurrence.