384 Relax and Succeed Rebuttal - A promise should be

Hmmm. I see Frank’s stuff on line and I know he’s a caring person with high character. But with no disrespect intended, I’ve gotta disagree on this one. Because what does should mean? I mean in practice? When I think about it deeply the word should is kind of like a wish. It’s you deciding to live with an expectation that another person will do exactly what you would do. You’re willing to do this because historically you are right far more often than you are wrong. This is the case for the vast majority of people and this is for two reasons: One, your friends are just the people who agree with how you see the world so they’ll also usually do what you would do. And two, to live in a society is to live within a framework of agreed-upon boundaries for behaviour, be those laws, rules, customs or even etiquette. However it’s important to remember that in reality people routinely break laws, disobey rules, ignore customs and defy etiquette. So should is just a wish. So if you’re going to get mad every time one of your wishes doesn’t come true you are in for one painful life. Trust me, you’ll break lots of promises in your life and you won’t mean to have hurt any of those people. But life gets complicated in the ego world. And sometimes those complications can lead good people to take uncharacteristic action (or inaction). Far better than being absolute is to be forgiving and flexible. Trust me, you’ll need the wiggle room too. Have a great day.

peace. s

Note: Everyone who posts or shares a quote does so with the very best of intentions. That said, I have created the series of Other Perspectives blog posts in an effort to prevent some of these ideas from entering into people’s consciousness unchallenged. These quotes range from silly or slightly-off to absurd and dangerous and—while I intend no offence to their creators—these rebuttals exist to help clarify the differences between ego-based belief vs. spiritual awareness. I do hope you find them helpful in your pursuit of both psychological and spiritual health.