What others think of us is often meaningless. We should surrender any compulsion we have to repeat to ourselves any negative, blaming, guilty or enervating thoughts we heard in school, at work, or from a family member or friend –or from or anyone else for that matter.
The only opinions we should be pausing to consider are those from those we respect most. The rest are just complaints from people who don’t know how to be happy and so they’re innocently blaming us. But what they think of us is their issue. What we think of ourselves is our ego’s reality.
In 1970 Soviet weightlifter Vasily Alexeyev became the first person to lift 250kg (550lbs). Many had tried the feat before him and failed. Alexeyev himself had failed at it several times in training but had gotten ever-so-close.
But leading up to the World Championships, Vasily had a plan. He knew the difference would be in his mind. Vasily would will himself to do it.
He would go on to the Montreal Olympics where he set a new world record at 255kg (562lbs) in the Clean and Jerk. And he’d done it all by simply believing he could. We have all heard stories about people in emergencies that find sources of strength that they did not know they had. It’s an idea that a part of us intuitively knows is true. It’s not supernatural, but we do have another level.
If a dedicated, eight time World Champion can lift a weight he’s tried to lift many times before, just by believing he can, what might we do? What sort of limiting thoughts do we play through the reality of our minds? And what would our life look like if we quieted those judgmental, critical, negative thoughts? What would happen to our Being? Who would we become?
If we stop thinking limiting thoughts then the same thing that happened to Vasily will happen to us. We will be stronger.
Let’s use our thoughts wisely today.
A serious childhood brain injury lead Scott to spend his entire life meditating on the concepts of thought, consciousness, reality and identity. It made others as strange to him as he was to them. When he realized people were confused by their own over-thinking, Scott began teaching others to understand reality. He is currently CBC Radio Active’s Wellness Columnist, as well as a writer, speaker and mindfulness instructor based in Edmonton, AB where he still finds it strange to write about himself in the third person.